Sep 20, 2015

OUR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP


"How lucky am I to have something that makes 
saying goodbye so hard." -- A. A. Milne



If you don't know by now, Daphne and I are both in a relationship. And with her living in Montreal, and I living in Miami, it's no surprise that our relationship has been anything but ordinary. Long distance relationships (LDR) require a great amount of teamwork and we thought we would share our experience so far with you. This won't be a post about tips and advice on how to keep a LDR running strong, but rather, our experience with it. 

We met online and became very close so quickly. Talking about Harry Styles, Teen Wolf, and our great music taste. I'm laughing about it now thinking about it, the connection was so apparent, it felt as if we knew each other our entire lives. We would talk about being in a relationship but were a bit scared, because if it didn't work out, we didn't want to lose our best friend in the process. And boy, am I so glad we decided to give it a go. 

It's been a little over a year and a half when we decided to become a couple, but it feels like it's been three years already, mostly because we were just so close when we were just friends. I think everyone knows that a LDR is hard but I don't really think they realize why. When I bring up that I'm in a LDR people tend to say "I can never do it, I would always be too scared of them cheating on me." But that's not even the hardest part of the whole entire relationship, the hardest part is not being able to do what normal couples do, hold hands, go on dates, cuddling on the couch, etc. etc.

With both of us being college students, it's pretty hard to get tickets to see each other as often as we want to. But we do try our hardest. This past summer I decided to stay in Montreal but saying goodbye was honestly the hardest thing I've ever had to do. It wasn't because I felt like we weren't going to see each other again, it was the thought of not being as close as we were for two months.

One thing that I will say about being in a LDR is that communication is the most important thing. Obviously it's something that is important in every relationship but being in a LDR, you absolutely need to learn how to communicate properly. Since you can't avoid each other for a few hours and make it up by showing up at their door with a cute little gift to make up, you need to learn how to do all that with words. There is obviously Skype and Facetime, but with a busy lifestyle it can get a little hard which leaves you with either text messages or phone calls.

We really hope that by next year (fingers crossed !!!) we'll finally be able to stay together and stop saying teary eyed goodbyes at the airports. Being in a long distance relationship is hard, but when it's with your best friend, it's 100% worth it. In the beginning, we made a promise to each other, to never let the distance be the reason we would ever break up, and I think so far we're doing pretty great. I love Daphne, and I love our relationship, and I'm pretty sure if we didn't meet when we did, we probably would've met each other another time. You just know when it's meant to be.

Here's to our future and yours ! We would love to hear about your relationship story, platonic or romantic, in the comments!!!

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